If you’ve never heard the “deep” side of me… HERE IT IS. (This opportunity only comes once in a while.)

Loving yourself is the most unselfish thing you can do. Once you accept and love yourself, you then have the capability to truly accept and love others. You cannot find in others what you do not have in yourself. You will never “find Waldo” in the Where’s Waldo book until you internally formulate what Waldo actually looks like. Thus, finding love in yourself helps you recognize love in others.

(Did you find that little striped bastard yet?)

So ask yourself, “What do I truly want and love in my life? Where is this love inside myself? What things in my life will best express the love that I have?” Once you identify these things, you can ask others to help you bring them to fruition. Love is not an isolated experience. Love encompasses everything and everyone… once you finally recognize it.

You too must ask others what they truly love in life. And if you can help them find those things, you are simultaneously helping yourself find your own wants and ambitions. You can begin to see that love is expressed in a symbiotic relationship. Love in one thing- is the same as love in another thing. In that way, love expresses itself as a unity and connection of all things. Love’s true nature is bringing things together. Think about a time you forgave someone… in forgiving them you were able to overcome challenges, and come together in greater understanding. Think about a time you thanked someone… in thanking them you accepted their gift, you recognized you have more to share, and were brought together on another level.

So recognizing this- connecting, helping, sharing, bringing together – theme of love is important. So ask the people in your life, “How can I help you be the best you can be?” How can I share my own love with you?” And be realistic, you don’t always ask it in such a verbatim fashion. Sometimes showing love is giving someone an extra hand carrying their groceries, or sharing your animal crackers. Love is an action, not a promise.

The way I see it.. Love isn’t just the sappy, cliché, emotional experience people make it out to be. It’s so much more. So give everybody the best you can give, and I’m sure life will reflect that back to you. But remember, in order to give anything to anyone, you must first find it in yourself.

Moral of the story: If you’ve never read a Where’s Waldo book, you better get on that.

Okay, now I’ll go back to being manly and talking about driving Lamborghinis, smoking Cigars; and watching football with the boys, while making sexist jokes and drinking Budweiser of course!